“No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future.” – Orebela Gbenga
Feelings of guilt. We all have them. They’re part of life, learning and personal growth. Each of us has at some point felt guilt over something that was said or done – or that wasn’t! Guilt used properly can help us take corrective action, be more mindful of others or indicate ways for self-improvement. Guilt’s purpose isn’t to make us feel bad, it’s to help us learn from our experiences. But for many, guilt can become destructive when we can’t get over it. Holding on to guilt, replaying situations or conversations over and over again in our mind, does nothing but increase pain and erode self-belief. It’s time to get over the guilt!
Guilt is all too often a way of punishing ourselves. It can be a self destructive thought pattern that becomes all consuming, degrading you, preventing you from living in the moment and keeping you a prisoner in the past. Dealing properly with any regrets, learning the lessons and releasing the holds they have on us, is part of our mental, emotional and spiritual healing.
Forgiveness is key. First, forgive yourself. No one is perfect. Then forgive the situation. Harping on what happened in the past does not fix it for the future or provide you with positive feelings toward yourself or others.
Mix-ups, mess-ups and mistakes happen. To everyone. It’s an important part of our learning curve! Holding on to the burden of guilt only brings continuous stress and solves nothing. It’s actually a bit self centered to think that something was ALL your fault! How powerful you are to take ALL the blame for something that occurred! Stop it! Misdoings and misunderstandings are a function of life.
The only way we grow is by acknowledging it, considering how to do it better in the future and then releasing any feelings of guilt that go with it. Apologize and make amends if it’s your fault, stop fretting about it if it wasn’t, but either way learn the lesson and then get on with your life. Guilt has no part in your advancement, empowerment or promotion of your spiritual, knowledgeable, emotional being.
This is the month to get over guilt! The Astrological energies for November encourage us to look deep within, find any destructive feelings that we may be harbouring and then let them go, which in turn helps us to have a healthier sense of emotional balance, resulting in greater happiness, health and harmony in all we do! Read on to see how this months Astrological energies can assist you!
Here’s your #AstroMotivation for November:
2 November (1st in U.S.A.): Mercury moves into Scorpio – Sensing the Solution!
A new window of opportunity opens, allowing us to make positive changes in the way we think and express ourselves. We can now get to the bottom of important issues as our investigative skills are sharper and our analytical abilities more precise. This time is advantageous for in-depth study or researching projects, while using intuitive energy to solve problems. We can better understand the motivations of ourselves and others, while transformation of our thoughts and interactions is highlighted. This is a great time to declutter the mind, focus on changing negative mental habits and getting to the heart of any matter. What can you improve when it comes to how you think and communicate?
9 November (8th in U.S.A.): Venus moves into Libra – Appreciate, Cultivate, Celebrate!
Beauty, the beckoning of love, enjoyment and creativity are brought forth with this new Venusian phase. Relationships, affections, artistry and aphrodisiac feelings are strong now – so appreciate, cultivate and celebrate your joys! We have luck on our side now for connecting with others, manifesting new relationships and finding more beauty (and balance) in our lives! Now is the time to meet up, share and show your creative ingenuity and romantic talents. This lovely cycle helps us all feel more attractive, social and up for exciting enchantment – so go for it! What can you do to bring more beauty/love to your life?
12 November (11th in U.S.A.): New Moon in Scorpio – Passions & Purpose!
This is a powerful time to put into place your plans, passions and purpose in order to bring your visions to reality. This New Lunar Light is favourable for gaining greater understanding of our deeper feelings, finding new awareness and assisting us in transforming our lives! In the sign of Scorpio, our inner workings, intuitive sense and passionate feelings are highlighted. Deeper appreciation of our psychic, healing and intuitive powers can be felt now helping us to transcend any challenges that have recently been experienced. This is a time of renewal, of new beginnings and the promise of a fresh start regarding the important issues of your life. What can you begin today to help manifest your passions and purpose?
13 November (12th in U.S.A.): Mars moves into Libra – Harnessing Harmony!
For the next 7 weeks the planet of activity couples with the sign representing relationships, artistry and balance. We now strive for more harmony and beauty in our lives and with each other. Greater creativity and the need to interact is enhanced, so use this time to cultivate connections and express your aesthetic visions! This is an excellent time for sharpening your conflict management skills or finding a creative project that brings holistic and therapeutic benefits. Be mindful however of indecision, passive-aggressive behavior or vacillating between the pros and cons of taking action. Instead of provoking others, use the energies at hand to express diplomacy and artistry. Where can you direct your energy to grow more harmony and happiness with others in your life?
19 November (18th in U.S.A.): Neptune in Pisces goes Direct – Direct Your Dreams!
As the planet of creativity, compassion and mystical attunement moves forward after 5 months of backward motion, we can now advance our intuitive goals. This is a new cycle of directing our spiritual and artistic dreams to the next level, while opening up to greater awareness of our personal purpose. For the next 6 months we have greater opportunities for achieving new levels of insight, vision and connection with the Universal mindset. Use this time to get in touch with your spiritual self and your higher calling. What are your dreams for the future?
21 November (20th in U.S.A.): Mercury moves into Sagittarius – Grow your Vision!
An enthusiastic time for appreciating positive self-expression, expansive thought and new optimism! A favourable period for jumping into prosperous projects and brighter adventures, helping you journey further in heart, mind and soul! You have the ability to make your visions come to life now – so embrace those future plans! Connecting with others to appreciate and share all that life has to offer is also highlighted. What knowledge or awareness can you share with others?
23 November (22nd in U.S.A.): Sun moves into Sagittarius – Grow Your Soul!
A new cycle of joy, expansive expression and positive feeling begins! As the Sun roars into this outgoing and thrill-seeking fire sign, we find more courage to advance our dreams! Opening ourselves now to greater prosperity, possibility thinking and freedom-loving adventures inspires more confidence and abundance in our lives! A great time for seeing the big picture in order to manifest it! Tap into higher minded expression, philosophical awareness and happiness harvesting now in order to surmount any challenge! As we express more positive energy and extroverted interests we grow our minds and souls! What new journey or intellectual adventure can you embark on this month?
26 November (25th in U.S.A.): Full Moon in Gemini – Reflecting and Releasing!
This insightful and thoughtful large Lunar Light signals a favourable time for reviewing what’s occurred for you this year, with an eye to what needs releasing before jumping into 2016! Consider all you’ve observed, discovered and come to understand these past months and what you’ve learned about yourself and others. What has worked and what hasn’t? What did you gain and what needs discarding? Discussing your experiences and goals while getting informative insight on what’s ahead (Motivational Astrology reading!) can help you better manifest your dreams for the coming year! Use this Full Moon to spark your curiosity, connect with kindred spirits and learn more about yourself! Upon reflection, what do you need to release now in order to move forward?
The Outer Planets stay in a sign for a longer period of time, so their effect on us is more gradual, but significant none the less. Here they are in their current positions:
*Jupiter in Virgo: Look back at what you experienced 12 years ago, when Jupiter was last in this sign, and notice similar themes arising for you. The difference being you now have more experience, wisdom and knowledge to help make the most of this new cycle of expansion. Success now comes by how much we pay attention to the details of our lives and our future goals. As the planet representing opportunity and growth moves through the sign highlighting practicalities, orderliness, analysis and organization, we can find greater prosperity and advancement by practicing these same things. Paying attention to the fine points, putting plans in place, being mindful of the details and having clear direction will enable us to bring our visions to reality. This goes hand-in-hand with better care and consideration of our body, mind and spirit balance.
*Saturn in Sagittarius: We now have greater opportunity to move forward with our passions, plans and pursuits. This is an ideal cycle for embracing our true purpose and laying the foundations for manifesting our visions. Paying closer attention to what we want to experience, advance in, learn about and achieve for greater personal fulfillment is highlighted. Extra persistence, expansion and opportunity can come now, allowing us to get serious about our abilities, work toward realizing our dreams and take our talents to the next step!
*Uranus in Aries: (Retrograde until 26 December 2015): We are encouraged to reflect on what we need for greater freedom in our lives. Honouring unique forms of self expression, liberation from oppression, new technology and inventive pioneering action is now highlighted. Strength, assertive action, inspirational vision, intuitive understanding and new innovation helps us to open up to new dimensions. Uranus will be in Aries until 7 March 2019.
*Neptune in Pisces (Goes Direct in Motion on 19 November 2015): Assists us in honouring greater spiritual awareness, creative inspiration and intuitive insight in our lives. We-are-all-one compassion is emphasized now along with humanitarian expression. Readdressing ways to embracing greater sympathy and empathy along with universal understanding is highlighted. Neptune will be in Pisces until 31 March 2025.
*Pluto in Capricorn: This pairing will continue until 24 March 2023. The overall theme of this time is uncovering the misuse of power and authority to enable change for the better. It represents a major cycle of energy that brings transformation to our society, government, world order and Mother Earth. It also pushes to bring about much change to our personal lives and belief structures, especially as Pluto aspects the planets in our natal chart.
*Chiron in Pisces: The ability to open our hearts to others while working to heal ourselves is highlighted. Greater spiritual awareness, empathy and compassion can be gained during this time but it’s important not to loose ourselves in the effort to assist others. Keeping personal boundaries in place is key for self care too. Chiron will be in Pisces until April 2018.
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