Of all the tomorrows that I’ve ever wished for, the only wish I have now, is to live for today…
As another year has come to completion and I look down only to realise that my shoulders are peeling from too much Christmas day sunshine, I’m finally able to say that I’m standing on solid ground — lest a major earthquake sweep the wooden floorboards from beneath my feet and send me adrift, sliding down the Wellington hill where I reside.
Goodbye 2016 and hello to a year that is pegged for completely new beginnings!
I’m not one to make New Year’s resolutions, but I’m all about reflecting on the things that I know I need to release in order to move forward. Personally, I’m thankful to be letting go of a year full of instability, compounded by my own complacency. Yes, that’s right!
Over the past couple of years I’ve relished living life on an even keel, while my natural inclination towards change and action has been in lock-down mode. I’ve been on cruise-control, gliding along without paying much attention to what’s in front of me. And that’s exactly where I got caught out.
Change is inevitable and necessary for growth. In reality, life should always be about shifting tides and forward motion. Accepting change allows us to set sail so that we can look back at where we’ve been, focusing only on the horizon, taking time to enjoy the ride ahead.
Will it be stormy? Who knows. But it could be completely smooth sailing under a star-filled sky and the most brilliant moon, if only we take the risk to jump on the boat in the first place.
I’m softening, I know. Yes, beneath my ‘resting bitch-face’ (according to a good friend at work) I’m a pretty soft touch. While I may well be a total control freak, over the past year I’ve learnt that we can’t — and shouldn’t — expect to control everything that happens in our lives.
And, as a former queen of letting my emotional world swallow me whole to the point where I’m stuck in a forest battling my way through spiky branches of pent-up childhood anguish and subsequent emotional blocks, I’ve finally discovered a balance. Now I can safely centre my emotions and allow myself to drift with the tide, because no matter what, it will always do as it pleases.
Stylefile: Wearing Karen Walker ruffle top (now on sale) / Perks and Mini culottes (old) / Mimco Perfect pear studs / Sempre Di Rocco Mules from Head Over Heels CHCH now on sale) / M·A·C Retro Matte Liquid Lip in Feels So Good.
In welcoming in the new year I’d like to give something back. Think of me as your very own Agony Aunt.
No matter the question or problem at hand, whether you have pesky flatmates that irritate you no end, or you have questions relating to work or relationships (i.e there’s a girl/ guy you have a crush on and you’re not sure how to make that first move), then I’m here to help.
Email your questions to: firstname.lastname@example.org with the subject field Agony Aunt, or just post a question as a comment below, and I’ll endeavor to help you. All questions will be posted anonymously along with whatever strands of advice I can offer…Happy 2017 everyone!
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